tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post5681338728491273567..comments2023-04-11T05:25:34.235-07:00Comments on I AM OFFENDED BECAUSE...: An Open Letter To The Woman Sitting At The Table Next To Me At Olive Cafe Last Weekend:Allyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-16618755593598582202010-10-03T17:02:40.263-07:002010-10-03T17:02:40.263-07:00Dear Anonymous - I am super glad you love reading ...Dear Anonymous - I am super glad you love reading my blog. I love comments like this because they totes make me think over my main points. Here is just me 2 cents.<br /><br />That is totally fine for you to LOVE YOUR BODY however you love it. The main point of this post though was totally about the stupidity of labelling foods as 'good' and as 'bad'.<br /><br />I am really pleased for you that you love your body. But I just hope that loving your body doesn't depend on what your hip bones or your bones are doing, or whatever numbers or figures you have quoted here. Body acceptance and fat acceptance both are underpinned by the idea of accepting bodies at every size/weight/ability/race/gender. You should check out some of my other posts, like An Open Letter To James and Would A Rose By Any Other Name, because there I have talked about how much I hate the REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES bullshit that is often touted as size acceptance. It totally isn't! All women are real! And celebrating one type of body should not be about tearing another type down.<br /><br />I would encourage you to check out some stuff by a blogger called The Fat Nutritionist (google her!) and the intuitive eating and the Heath At Every Size movements, because I firmly do not think that eating what you like is associated with weight gain. I think eating what you like could be eating salads and grains and awesome things. But there is NOTHING to be gained from only loving your body when it is skinny and from labelling high fat foods as BAD.<br /><br />xxAllyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-4871680546337247782010-10-03T16:53:23.146-07:002010-10-03T16:53:23.146-07:00But what if I love my body the way it is and the w...But what if I love my body the way it is and the way it is very skinny because I choose not to eat haloumi or other high fat foods? I get accepting our bodies at whatever level is comfortable for us but I don't get why that equals eating whatever you like all the time, with the associated weight gain. Or why loving your body the way it is seems to exclude those who like to be skinny. <br /><br />I have been all over the weight spectrum. I'm currently 35kgs lighter than I was at my largest. I like being really skinny. I like that my hip bones jut out and that you can count my ribs. I just wonder if this counts as body acceptance too or if I am seen as a victim of or sucker for body policing because what I like and accept is very thin? <br /><br />(ps. I really enjoy reading your blog.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-39943624728586795132010-09-26T21:58:55.484-07:002010-09-26T21:58:55.484-07:00GUHHHHHH haloumi is so good. Life is too short and...GUHHHHHH haloumi is so good. Life is too short and food is too enjoyable to bother with bullshit food morality.Franceshttp://corpulent.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-51311025624067576072010-09-25T17:40:29.443-07:002010-09-25T17:40:29.443-07:00Fabulous post. I'm often sickened by advertis...Fabulous post. I'm often sickened by advertising for food. Ice-cream adverts drive me nuts the most. I just want to scream "It's ice-cream!! Just eat it, don't fuck it!"Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-60911687051909825402010-09-18T21:33:47.317-07:002010-09-18T21:33:47.317-07:00NB - For anyone who is looking for more expertise ...NB - For anyone who is looking for more expertise discussion about veganism and animal rights, Alex has now started a blog which you should check out.<br /><br />http://pissedoffvegan.blogspot.com/Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-1051381390582503442010-09-18T18:20:35.414-07:002010-09-18T18:20:35.414-07:00Hi Alex! Thank you for commenting. I think that fo...Hi Alex! Thank you for commenting. I think that for me, something I really struggle with the guilt that comes with eating animal products, and trying to balance this with my life. For me, giving up pork and chicken and most meats as already been quite a huge step, and only buying free range and ethical beef. One day, I really do hope to be completely vegetarian and to only be buying completely ethical and free range dairy products (which I try to do with dairy right now). But for me as it is, I can't do that right now. I have been trying to eliminate this stuff slowly, and I feel like by acknowledging the pork and chicken thing in my most was my way of saying that actually, I am thinking about where my food comes from. Because the main part of the post was about GOOD and BAD foods, but I wanted there to be some acknowledgement of where animal products come from, so I think that the burying head in the sand thing might be a little unfair. Especially because most other FA stuff I have read has never mentioned the correlation with a bad food, and a food that is bad ethically. With me, I have found that it is when I try not to eat any animal products at all I will crave them and go mental and then eat something I don't want to, so it is way better for me to only eat on occasion, and buy humanely produced when I can. Because otherwise I end up feeling way too over-whelmed and WHAT IS THE POINTish.<br /><br />I think it is really excellent that way that you can vocalize and express your views so strongly, and I totally admire the conviction that you have with your veganism. I would love to be at the place that you are right now, but it is something I struggle with. Like a couple of months ago when I ate some free range bacon, I had to come home and donate to SAFE because I felt so guilty. Maybe you should write some kind of guest post about how animal products or their adverstising or something someone has said totally pisses you off? Even if you wanted to turn this rant into a thing? I would be totally into posting it.<br /><br />Anyway, you are awesome and we should totes have a drink sometime when we next find ourself in the same city.<br />xxAllyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-24443120065543773862010-09-18T17:34:25.960-07:002010-09-18T17:34:25.960-07:00I really hate to do this, because I really do love...I really hate to do this, because I really do love your blog so so so much and have agreed with every single thing you've posted so far, but I have to make one point about this.<br /><br />Food can be dangerous. Not for us, the ones consuming it, but for the animals that provide it. The meat/dairy industry hurts animals. There's no way around it. I openly acknowledge that there are many 'ethical' meat and dairy production facilities in New Zealand, but a large portion of their product is shipped overseas (more profitable than selling locally), so a lot of the animal products people buy (often under the impression they come from 'happy' animals in 'nice' slaughterhouses in NZ) is actually from overseas, where standards regarding animal welfare are practically non-existent. <br /><br />You say you 'try not to think about' the effect your consumption has on animals. Unfortunately, in an educated society I really feel like this bury-my-head-in-the-sand attitude won't cut it. The information is freely available, and people actively choose to ignore it because it makes them feel uncomfortable, and maybe it's a bit harder to tuck in to a steak when you know how much that animal suffered to get to your taste buds. <br /><br />The parallels between this and modern feminism are quite strong. Ignoring a problem because it makes you uncomfortable - whether it be exactly how your dinner got to your table or a misogynistic, discriminatory rape culture bubbling beneath the surface of society - will do absolutely nothing to aid its eradication. In fact, this kind of willful ignorance is often the most enabling factor in allowing this kind of behaviour to continue. <br /><br />Again, I hate to be so confrontational - although an oft-offended lady should understand the feeling ; )<br /><br />I'm putting my name on this because I don't want to hide behind an 'anonymous' label. Also, I 100% remember you letting me have a big bitch and moan at you over facebook a few months ago even though we practically haven't spoken since high school, and I appreciated that so so much at the time (and now). You're my sweet bitch of the week.<br /><br />Lastly, apologies for the tl;dr. Love, love, love your work <3Alex Marknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-42118788237336786892010-09-15T21:57:39.882-07:002010-09-15T21:57:39.882-07:00But I also think I could write an equally enraged ...But I also think I could write an equally enraged post about society views women's pregnant bodies as public property, haha!<br />Thank you for commenting and hope to see you soon!Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-47458923637963744522010-09-15T21:56:47.768-07:002010-09-15T21:56:47.768-07:00Thank you Emily!
I think although it is possible ...Thank you Emily! <br />I think although it is possible she might be pregnant, it's probably not that likely. Like on a likeliness ratio I would 'chances of body policing' over 'chances of pregnancy'. <br /><br />My travel tip when I go places is to always eat yoghurt first because it acclimatises you to the buggies that are in all the food in a different place! Interesting! YOGHURT POWER!Allyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-36730396529598959052010-09-15T21:07:25.412-07:002010-09-15T21:07:25.412-07:00Hi Ally I love reading your post - you are a fabul...Hi Ally I love reading your post - you are a fabulous writer.<br /><br />One thing to ponder perhaps -<br /><br />Did you think maybe the lady at Olive might have been pregnant? then the comment about halumi cheese makes sense...not so safe to eat when someone thinks they might be pregnant.<br /><br />Also, when travelling I chose not to eat soft cheeses (and yogurt) because the bugs in these foods vary from place to place (even within a country) and often cause stomach upsets.Emily Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06929678960210233529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-72339704294508710222010-09-14T20:12:59.059-07:002010-09-14T20:12:59.059-07:00Thank you everyone for your lovely comments on thi...Thank you everyone for your lovely comments on this post. Anonymous, your comment made me just grin in a really big way! I am so glad you like what I am writing about and have been reading other awesome stuff. I am so seriously inspired by some of the more established fat acceptance bloggers. So much fierce body love. Now I feel like an ice-cream.<br />xxxxxAllyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06728172539093346724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-59338948401469971992010-09-14T13:55:02.174-07:002010-09-14T13:55:02.174-07:00Truer words were never spoken.Truer words were never spoken.anteiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17743009640809640490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-90518317995468229742010-09-14T03:16:42.833-07:002010-09-14T03:16:42.833-07:00Ally, you are so amazing. I check your blog almost...Ally, you are so amazing. I check your blog almost every single day to look for updates and when there is one, I am so happy. I'm a huge fan of reading blogs about all sorts of things, but had never thought to look for blogs are fat acceptance or size positivism. The thought provoking and pretty damn awesome things you write about and links you've hooked me up with have been amazingly informative and beneficial to me. Can I just thank you for loving your body, and telling me that it's OK to love mine. I'm size 18 on top, 20 on the bottom and I'm one of those rare cases who is not in a hurry to change. I tried the odd fad diet that temporarily cost me my sanity and made me paranoid about what passed my lips. I tried eating tiny portions by only eating off a little plate but I got sick of being hungry. So instead I concentrated on changing my mind set instead of my measurements. I never apoligise for myself, or my size, or for eating everything on my plate. In fact, I was reading this whilst eating a Memphis Meltdown Gooey Raspberry that I loved every mouthful of. I only wish my two miniscule flatmates who, instead of icecream, ate cottage cheese and honey out of a tiny cup for pudding, were as comfortable with themselves as their flatmate twice their size. Oh well. Ally, you're amazing. I'm starting to WANT people to offend you so you can share your opinions and eloquent musings with all of us! Thank you xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-43261336728274321972010-09-12T17:46:37.537-07:002010-09-12T17:46:37.537-07:00HALOUMI HALOUMI HALOUMI that is all that I have t...HALOUMI HALOUMI HALOUMI that is all that I have to say (but it is definitely an endorsement).h-doghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01261301475204535999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-33528958854002803042010-09-12T16:16:32.821-07:002010-09-12T16:16:32.821-07:00I really liked reading this while I had my danish ...I really liked reading this while I had my danish and my energy drink for breakfast because it is MONDAY MORNING and I am HUNGOVER.<br />Mmmm, halloumi..Saigon Sylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05865206177445877905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-41864895568782712782010-09-12T10:55:32.489-07:002010-09-12T10:55:32.489-07:00HERE HERE!!!
My coworker feels he has to ask me p...HERE HERE!!!<br /><br />My coworker feels he has to ask me permission to eat his lunch. I'm not quite sure if he asks me because I'm fat and you know we're such decadent overeaters but he'll be receiving this printed out in his box tomorrow morning :)<br /><br />xoxoxoJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16785105922472204553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2248771638146280147.post-66321423529217636482010-09-12T00:11:01.183-07:002010-09-12T00:11:01.183-07:00Amen!Amen!Marahttp://twitter.com/MaraLovesEarthnoreply@blogger.com